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Milestones... Milestones...

I eluded to this post over in our VIP group earlier in the week but I'll go into a little more detail here.

We'll rewind to the beginning which started last September.  I had been working to take my daughter's paci away from her shortly after she started preschool. It was probably the second week in September that we finally had some success. She spent 3 full nights/days without her paci and we were on a roll! The fourth night is when it all went downhill. My husband and I decided to get away for a weekend and left the kids with their nanny. I sent a paci just in case she had a really hard time being away from us, unfortunately, she did. She spent 45 minutes crying before Nanny felt like it was time for the paci. Usually, I'd pick right back up the very next week, but little miss priss wasn't having it. She became super clingy and literally wouldn't sleep. If I did manage to get her to fall asleep she'd wake up in the middle of the night and wouldn't go back to sleep. Since my kids shared a room, letting her cry for any period of time was not an option. 

Fast forward to last week. 
For the past two weeks, I've been having quite the time with her! From flushing 20 tampons down our toilet to being a little miss bossy pants, this mama was fed up with the tude! Thursday I was trying to get some "pre-picture day shots" before I dropped them off at school. Neither one of them were very cooperative.
By the way, if you've never tried to snap a good photo of two kids smiling AND looking at the camera at the same time, you don't know what you're missing!  I gave up on getting the perfect photos a long time ago. I settle for anything that shows their personality and a good spirit. Last Thursday I couldn't get my daughter to take her paci out of her mouth for a picture. I was even firm with her and pulled the mom voice out, she just bit the paci between her teeth and laughed at me as if she was the monkey in charge. That was it ya'll, that's all she wrote.. I walked over, took the paci and never gave it back.  That afternoon I made her take a nap without it. Granted, it took her a long while to fall asleep, but with a firm mom voice and consistency, she finally did it! I followed through to that evening for bedtime, I refused to give her the paci and had to keep my firm mom voice out until she fell asleep. My mom helped because the next day I was at my whits end. She offered to take both kids all weekend and as much as my daughter asked for her paci, she never gave it to her. By the time she came come Sunday night, she was completely finished with it.
She did find a favorite toy that she clings to for bedtime, so I think that has helped. 
Night training toddler
My son is the one that gave up the night time pullups. He really did it on his own too, which is amazing!! We started potty training him when he was 12 months old, you know, introducing and such. He was fully potty trained during the day about a month after his 2nd birthday. I have read that boys prostates take a while to develop so bed wetting can happen up until age 5, simply because they can't physically hold it. Based on that, I let the nighttime pull-ups continue until he could keep them dry for several days in a row. He recently grew tired of wearing pull-ups to bed, he complained that they were uncomfortable. I would always remind him that he could wear big boy undies if he would just keep his pull-up dry all night.  I had been noticing that when his pull-up is wet in the morning, it's really warm, so I started asking him if he peed when he was sleeping, or if he peed when he was awake. To my surprise, he could recall that he laid in his bed awake and peed in his pull-up. That's how I knew, it was definitely time to take away the convenience. Thursday night I told him he could wear big boy undies, but if he laid in his bed awake and peed his bed he would be in trouble. We've had one accident since that night.
I really didn't have a mode or method, I just try to take cues from my kids and the way they act. I've learned (at least with my two) that communication is key. My dad always made me feel like he understood me, it was probably one of the main reasons it was so easy to talk to him, he listened and didn't try to "take charge" of every situation. Of course, parents have to be parents, and discipline still needs to be enforced, but taking time to ask your child how they're feeling, or showing genuine concern for how they are acting will produce amazing results, at least it has for me.  I never like feeling "talked at", I much prefer when someone speaks to me as if I have a say in what happens, so that's how I approach my kids. After all, I am trying to raise them to be respectful, competent humans, what better way to do that than to treat them as such. 

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